Joe! You can't teach someone to be a Real Man. You have to live it! It's like Buddhist enlightenment. Any fool can read a Koan solutions book--to really understand the nature of things, you have to contemplate for years.
So I'm afraid that a video tutorial, while it would be a hit on Youtube, would not be too helpful. I'll just be content in being Real-Manlier than you. I'm sorry it has to be this way!
(Of course, a real Real Man spells "scalding" right. Just sayin'. That guy is an amateur.)