A lot of things are supposed to be bad for you, but while one study shows bad things, another shows no effect at all. Millions of chinese and japanese women drank (and still do drink) tea while pregnant, and no link has ever surfaced in writings. So I figure the danger is minimal to non existant. Like I said, if you're worried, doctors are great sorces of information.
As for my son, I got myself in a bad situation. I placed him for adoption. I could barely afford to take care of my self, I certainly couldn't afford to raise a kid, and I wasn't about to get on welfare if I could avoid it. There are so many wonderful people who can't have children, and desperately want one. I figured it would be best for all involved to place him. He's a wonderful boy. I get pictures and letters all the time. I know his mom and dad love him very very much, and can give him more than I ever could.